My (22F) boyfriend (23 M) has stopped showering. We’ve been together for two years. We just moved in together so maybe I am noticing more, but he definitely showered around me prior to moving in. When I say not shower I mean for almost two weeks at a time.
I have tried to bring it up to him in nice ways such as . “do you want to shower with me”. I have asked if he has trauma relating to showering or if he is depressed. He declines all.
He keeps getting angry with me for not having sex with him. I have kindly told him Its not hygienic and the smell bothers me several times. Each time he gets upset and says that I find him disgusting. Then he throws a fit for days. I have gotten to the point where I will not longer repeat myself- I just won’t have sex. I don’t feel like it’s fair to me to me to have to feel bad about saying it over and over. I’ve told him plenty of times but he still acts like he has no idea why I won’t have sex with him.
I’m getting to the point where I want to end the relationship because of this. I don’t want to throw away two years but idk what else to do. Advice?
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